From "We" to "You"

One of my participants said:



“He thinks they [women] deserve whatever they have to do [at Christmas] because they’re the ones that make it that way.”



However, she goes on to say:



"And then you’ll start having to send Christmas cards that he thinks you should send. It always comes to the woman . . . he’ll say, “oh, we only need to send this amount of Christmas cards this year” and before you know it, he’ll be like, “did you send so and so a card?” If someone dies he’ll be like, “did we send a sympathy card?” “We” means “did ‘you’ do it?”